Thursday, June 14, 2012

Holding my tongue

Oh, how I wish I was like the Proverbs 31 woman... she was so Virtuous... how wonderful. I, on the other hand struggle with holding my tongue. I just have the hardest time not speaking my mind. I find that if I have something to say ... I say it. Sometimes without thinking, but even after thinking about it, I say something if it offends me or I just don;'t agree. This isn't a good trait to have. I have a very calm, reserved husband who can hold his tongue and not allow things to bother him. I wish I could be like that. I suppose I really need prayer in the fact that I need to know when to say something and when not to.. I just can't discern the two sometimes. I recently had a family member do something that really offended me, and made me feel bad for my daughters. Could Should I have stayed silent? Yes, I suppose I could have.Jesus stayed silent the whole time he was taking the beatings and cruelty for nothing that He did. He stayed silent and allowed the things that should have happened to us happen to Him because he loved us so much. I need to take a lesson from Jesus and learn to stay silent when it's appropriate and when I really don't agree. But learn to disagree with humility and love.
The Bible is the map through this life and learning from it is an on going process.


Sea Witch said...

Sweetie, you have had a lot going on. If someone said something offensive to you and it made you feel bad for your daughters than you have the right to share how you feel with that speaker. Turning the other cheek also means not allowing this individual to hurt you or your family. If you believe you took your response to far than ask forgiveness and then move forward. Take care.

Joy said...

I sometimes wish I wouldn't hold my tongue!!

Venus Blues Hideaway said...


I just found your blog by way of another blog and I have to tell you--I love it!! I especially like your blog about knowing when to keep quiet. Man--that one for me is almost impossible. I have a hard time with that one. When someone does or says something that I don't approve of, I just can't help it. I have to let them know about it. My husband, like yours, is so quiet and thoughtful. Sometimes I wish I could be more like that, just sometimes :). Other times, he infuriates me because I think that he should take offense. Why not--I do! We are what we are and that has to be enough. I am so glad I found you. I am going to look around your blog a little more. I am going to follow you so that I can pop in often.

Hope to chat again.