Holding my tongue

Oh, how I wish I was like the Proverbs 31 woman... she was so Virtuous... how wonderful. I, on the other hand struggle with holding my tongue. I just have the hardest time not speaking my mind. I find that if I have something to say ... I say it. Sometimes without thinking, but even after thinking about it, I say something if it offends me or I just don;'t agree. This isn't a good trait to have. I have a very calm, reserved husband who can hold his tongue and not allow things to bother him. I wish I could be like that. I suppose I really need prayer in the fact that I need to know when to say something and when not to.. I just can't discern the two sometimes. I recently had a family member do something that really offended me, and made me feel bad for my daughters. Could Should I have stayed silent? Yes, I suppose I could have.Jesus stayed silent the whole time he was taking the beatings and cruelty for nothing that He did. He stayed silent and allowed the things that should have happened to us happen to Him because he loved us so much. I need to take a lesson from Jesus and learn to stay silent when it's appropriate and when I really don't agree. But learn to disagree with humility and love.
The Bible is the map through this life and learning from it is an on going process.